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Is Hitting in our Home Acceptable?

Is Hitting Your Children Acceptable?

Every child deserves to be happy, healthy, safe and loved. The question is how many children does that actually apply to? According to the NSPCC in 2014, there were over 48,000 children under the age of 18 in England alone that were identified as needing protection from abuse. Just imagine how many more fall under the radar of the authorities; or those who are simply too scared to speak out, in fear of what will happen to them.

Abuse or neglect can happen to any child, in any home. It can have devastating effects on a child’s development, as well as having huge impacts on their mental, physical and emotional health; both as a child and in their adult life.

So how much is too much?  Let’s face it, most parents at some point can have their buttons pressed and want to smack their child. The fact of the matter is, it is not clear what is acceptable in terms of punishing your children. For me any form of hitting, striking or inflicting violence upon a child is abuse. Not only is it child abuse, but a terrible abuse of power towards those most vulnerable in this country and it DOES have an impact on their child’s development.

Working with children for several years within schools and in private clinic, I have seen my fair share of the impact on our children as a consequence of parents mistakenly thinking that the punishment towards their children is at an acceptable level. I shudder to think about how many children are forced to secrecy, so just live with it daily. What goes on in the home stays in the home! Numerous parents think it is okay to beat their children with hose pipes, belts and bamboo sticks. Let’s not forget the emotional abuse inflicted on them, leaving their children feeling worthless and having devastating effects on their development.

Children talk to me and our other therapists at Tappy Twins; because they are very unhappy. Too scared to speak, it takes some time to ensure you have the trust of the child, before they have the courage to speak out.  Our mission is to help as many of them be happy, safe and the people they deserve to be, irrespective of personal circumstances. However, we find that so many times our society lets them down and fails to protect them from the people that are hurting them.

There have been countless occasions when the authorities have decided to send children home, when a child protection issue has been raised within schools.  What message does that sent out to the parent? That it is ok to do what they do. What about the poor child that has opened up to you and thinks that things will change.

We are letting our children down, so how can we complain when they are growing up to be angry, detached from society and their future prospects look bleak.  It is not rocket science; if things are broken then they need to be fixed. The system that is supposed to protect our most vulnerable is merely letting them down. If we expect to make our future generation as well balanced as possible, action needs to take place NOW!!  It starts with the education of parents to what is and what is not acceptable in terms of punishment.

 

 

The Mother With 1 Eye – a must to watch

A mother’s love.
Being a parent does not come with an instruction manual. Sometimes we get it wrong but most of us do what we think is right for the sake of our children; at the time. Often our children do not understand why we do things the way we do or make the decisions we have to make.This amazing selfless mum made the ultimate sacrifice and paid in so many more ways. A must for every child and parent to watch.
Have a watch and see if your opinions of your parents change. Love to hear your comments.

Check out our latest competition winner

Afend joins Tappy Town and looks fab. She entered our last drawing competition and won it. As a result she is now been made into a character and will be added to the town in the next few days. Please let us know what you think!

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Happy New Year from us all. What are your plans for 2015?

 

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Happy New Year! I hope you had a fantastic celebration and are excited about what 2015 will bring.

We are so excited to have some stretching goals set for Tappy Twins. With our amazing expansion ideas, we can’t wait to get started.  Watch this space everyone!!

I know many of us are mulling around New Year’s resolutions (unless you’ve given up on them completely!) and are thinking about what we want to create in 2015.

 
We love these resolutions by Ralph Waldo Emerson, what do you think?:
 
To laugh often and much; 
 
To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; 
 
To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; 
 
To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; 
 
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; 
 
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. 
 
This is to have succeeded
 
-Ralph Waldo Emerson